A toddler free day!

A toddler free day!

We had a hectic bank holiday weekend, so my mummy was prudent and booked off a ‘buffer’ day before she went back to work.

This was her rest day. A day where she just kicked back and relaxed. It was her bank holiday in lieu.

On Tuesday the weather was wet and miserable. It was dark in the house and she snuggled up on the sofa.

While people were busy commuting to work she was in her pjs and under a rug. She was happy that she made the decision to book the time of work and recharge her batteries.

Simple Pleasures

She reflected on how lucky she was to have the opportunity to do this. A toddler and work free day, a break from the daily grind.

This is what she got up to.

1) She stayed in her PJs….ALL DAY! Lazy sod 😉

2) She had the chance to eat a full breakfast without having my little fingers pinch the red berries out of her cereal.

3) She watched some epic films including American Beauty, Wolf on Wall Street and Cloud Atlas.

4) She pottered aimlessly around the house getting side tracked – she spent an hour sorting out my clothes in my room!

5) She actually sat down with a cup of hot tea and read some of her book!

6) She managed to have a hot bath.

7) She watched some more telly and caught up on the news.

8) She surfed the Internet and did a little bit of blogging.

9) She organised herself, writing her lists and laying out clothes.

10) She caught up on sleep and dozed on the sofa…bliss!

When was the last time you had some ‘you’ time?

This post was inspired by one of my mummy’s #SoMum Twitter parties run by the fabulous Pippa@StoryofMum

#SoMum Yes Vest

The aim of the Story of Mum excercise was to say ‘yes’ to what she needed. This month my mummy needed some ‘me’ time at home x

How would you spend your ‘alone’ time?

Bella x

The next #somum make date is on the 20th May 2015 – why don’t you pop over and have a look 🙂

The List

How NOT to become a blogging monster

How NOT to become a blogging monster!

Blogging monster

Dear mummy, last week I posted a list of reasons why I think you might be turning into a blogging monster.

This week’s post is about helping you out of the blogging hole you’ve got yourself into. I’m giving you some pointers on how NOT to become a blogging monster mummy!!

Yes you have ambition, I get that mummy. But this constant striving to be the best at everything that you do must get you down.

I’m not saying have low expectations just don’t measure yourself on very successful professional bloggers!

A) you don’t have the time to be like them and B) this is a hobby that you enjoy. Not a business, not your livelihood.

So here’s my ten tips to STOP yourself turning into a blogging monster:

1) Stick to you guns mummy, you don’t have to be on every social media channel. Don’t spreads yourself too thinly. We’re not on Instagram you see…so what.

2) Take time out. For at least one day during the week don’t check your phone or computer.

3) Turn off notifications after 9pm. Don’t be a slave to notifications!

4) Limit your Twitter and increase your life balance. You don’t need to be online all the time! Leave temptation at the door. Hang your coat up and leave your phone on charge for the evening.

5) Blog for yourself. Do as much or as little as you want to.

6) Don’t compare yourself to other bloggers (they are travelling their own journey) it’s good to be different.

7) Only take your big camera when it’s a very special event – you don’t need it for a trip down the shops!

8) Be supportive of the blogging community. Show this though likes, shares and comments on other people’s blogs.

9) Have fun, when blogging becomes a chore it’s time to cut back or quit. Don’t feel that you have to do everything. When you don’t worry about followers and joining in every single Linky then you won’t feel the pressure to make everyone happy.

10) Don’t forget about family (especially in the evenings) disconnect from you phone and reconnect to daddy. *hubba hubba* 😉

Heed my words of wisdom mummy! I want to see you put this into practice soon….and if you don’t…. I’ll take control of EVERYTHING! Hehehe!

Lots of love Bella (your lifestyle guru and blogging buddy)

The List

The colours of my mummy’s life

My mummy sees things in black and white at the moment with the odd speckles of grey.

Halftone colours on a blank canvas.

We’ve had an interesting start to the year already. Self doubt, sickness, stress and all round ‘meh’.

This new year I want her to see the rainbows in her life. All the colours that life has to offer.

Red, not like anger but family. Blood is thicker than water she needs to make more of an effort with her family.

Orange, like the ones I eat, the little segments each representing an aspect of her life. Husband, me, work, routine, personal time, hobbies, sleep. All parts of the orange together makes her whole.

Yellow, not just sickness (like the colour of my nappies) but the goodness and caring. Having the patience, courage and strength to be a better mum when things get tough.

Stephanie Block Artwork RainbowsGreen, not just jealousy but hope and the realisation that everyone else has their own journey to live. Stop comparing yourself to others.

Blue, not just sadness but new horizons. Blue skies and sunny days are hopefully lying ahead.

Purple, the colour of Cadbury’s chocolate wrappers. In life you can NEVER have too much chocolate! Life is like a box of chocolates as someone famous once said…you never know what you’re gotta get. This new year, don’t limit yourself with things you can’t have. Silly fad diets and restrictions on things that make you happy. Just be happy.

Stephanie Block Artwork StarsWe love this artwork from Stephanie Block, a local artist in Hampshire. We proudly hang it in our house and it serves a gentle reminder to put things into perspective when life gets tough.

Dear mummy, always look for the rainbow after the storm.

Love Bella x

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Cuddle Fairy

A better day

A better day

Dear mummy, today was a better day. For all of us. The sun was shining and you managed to finally get some shut-eye last night. Sleep helps to recharge your batteries, especially when you are feeling low. You feel selfish for sleeping over 12hrs yesterday, leaving childcare duties to Grandma and Daddy, but you were much better for it. Laughing and joking with me today.

You see, since we arrived in Ireland for the Christmas Holidays I haven’t been sleeping. 😦 It could be the change in routine, too much excitement or my final milk teeth coming through…it could be a wonder week as my speech is getting better…it could be anything.

I must admit I’ve had the whole household at their wit’s end! Lack of sleep leads to mutiny within the ranks and discord.

You’ve been low because of it and you hate hearing me cry all night. Big family gatherings are hard, too much pressure for everything to be ‘perfect’. Keeping up with the Jones’ with social media feeds full of gloating families about how wonderful their Christmases have been. PAH! Bah humbug. Real families have real issues.

Anyway, I digress. I saw you kissing Daddy today so I know you still love him, even though he’s still poorly sick. He even made you crack a smile 🙂

It’s all hands on deck to deal with this troublesome toddler (that’s me btw) It’s like a switch went off in my head as soon as we landed in Belfast. One minute I was serene and calm, the next I was transformed into this drooling sugar crazed monster. I can’t help myself, I know you know that.

I must have fallen asleep on your chest tonight as one minute I remember hearing you breathing and feeling you rub my back, the next I’m in this cold unfamiliar cot. It feels strange. I don’t like it.

So, shall I cry out tonight for comfort or just go back to sleep?

Stay tuned

Bella x

Behind closed doors

Behind closed doors

Dear mummy, so it’s got to this.

You are staring at your hand filled with sleeping pills. This has been the hardest post to write, you see this blog was only ever supposed to be recording the happy times.

Unfortunately recently we’ve only had the bad. Illness, no sleep, relationship problems. You’ve done quite well shielding me from how you feel though. With a family history of mental health issues ranging from Alcoholism, which lead to your father’s death at 52, to eating disorders and depression. It’s about time something was going to happen to you.

At Christmas it’s always worse. Trying to keep everyone happy, putting a fake smile on, telling yourself that you are happy. Some days you are. Some days you are not.

So, here you are. Sleeping pills & pain killers or writing this post to get it off your chest. People sing about contemplating suicide, but until you actually feel like you can do it, do you fully emerge yourself in the task of planning it. Fantasising on ways that you could end it all. Hanging on window blind cords, driving your car into a brick wall or inching slowly off the motorway. Taking drugs mixed with sleeping pills and going to the kitchen drawer downstairs and grabbing a knife. You’ve thought about stabbing yourself in the stomach a lot, you don’t think you could cut your wrists.

Sleep deprivation and lack of self-esteem has led to this post. You hate yourself and feel others are mocking you and bitching about you behind your back. You feel you aren’t good enough to be a mum, by feeling constantly judged by others. You aren’t good enough to blog because you can’t spell or use grammar correctly. You’ve failed at being successful by being a lowly graphic designer. You’re ugly, fat and hate yourself. Daddy doesn’t listen to you or respect advice that you try to give. Always wanting to be in control of everything and you feel like a spare part. Surely no-one would miss you….except me. I’m the reason you are writing this post instead of ending it all. I’m the reason you are doing this blog, I’m the reason why you are trying to live your life. You are doing a shit job at it mummy and screwing it all up.

What to do…?

I don’t know.

Bella.

My adventures with #somum Make Dates

My adventures with #somum Make Dates on Twitter

Dear mummy, #somum Make Date is a twitter event that happens every month. It’s hosted and organised by the lovely Pippa of Story of Mum. It gives mummies the opportunity to talk to other mums on twitter, share experiences, offer support and generally have a laugh through crafting and other fun activities.

Pippa sends out a little reminder through her newsletters and twitter to set the theme and pose some questions to get the creative juices following. It’s a great twitter activity to get involved in and you meet some fab people along the way. My mummy laughed out loud yesterday at people’s funny comments. If you need a pick-me-up come along and join in the fun xx Bella xx

Here’s my creations so far….

Last nights challenge and theme was “how many things have you touched today” what, whom, why etc…

It’s amazing what mummies do daily for their families 🙂 it was a draw round your hand challenge!

The first picture was done in advance. The second biro-scribble doodle was done during the event with both my hand and mummy’s hand, what she’s contributes and what I give back xx We were all drawing around our hands together, while balancing cups of coffee, glasses of wine and dinner trays…(well, not me..I was concentrating, plus I’m not allowed wine or coffee) Crazy mummies! Such fun was had and if you want a sneaky peek of the action type in #somum into twitter or visit the Story of Mum website. X

#somum hand 2#somum hand 2