How NOT to become a blogging monster!
Dear mummy, last week I posted a list of reasons why I think you might be turning into a blogging monster.
This week’s post is about helping you out of the blogging hole you’ve got yourself into. I’m giving you some pointers on how NOT to become a blogging monster mummy!!
Yes you have ambition, I get that mummy. But this constant striving to be the best at everything that you do must get you down.
I’m not saying have low expectations just don’t measure yourself on very successful professional bloggers!
A) you don’t have the time to be like them and B) this is a hobby that you enjoy. Not a business, not your livelihood.
So here’s my ten tips to STOP yourself turning into a blogging monster:
1) Stick to you guns mummy, you don’t have to be on every social media channel. Don’t spreads yourself too thinly. We’re not on Instagram you see…so what.
2) Take time out. For at least one day during the week don’t check your phone or computer.
3) Turn off notifications after 9pm. Don’t be a slave to notifications!
4) Limit your Twitter and increase your life balance. You don’t need to be online all the time! Leave temptation at the door. Hang your coat up and leave your phone on charge for the evening.
5) Blog for yourself. Do as much or as little as you want to.
6) Don’t compare yourself to other bloggers (they are travelling their own journey) it’s good to be different.
7) Only take your big camera when it’s a very special event – you don’t need it for a trip down the shops!
8) Be supportive of the blogging community. Show this though likes, shares and comments on other people’s blogs.
9) Have fun, when blogging becomes a chore it’s time to cut back or quit. Don’t feel that you have to do everything. When you don’t worry about followers and joining in every single Linky then you won’t feel the pressure to make everyone happy.
10) Don’t forget about family (especially in the evenings) disconnect from you phone and reconnect to daddy. *hubba hubba* 😉
Heed my words of wisdom mummy! I want to see you put this into practice soon….and if you don’t…. I’ll take control of EVERYTHING! Hehehe!
Lots of love Bella (your lifestyle guru and blogging buddy)
dearmummyblog.com 
Wise words, Bella 🙂 Lugging the “big camera” around is what has broken my lovely changing bag!
Thanks! My mummy prefers her ‘big camera’ but she’s started taking it EVERYWHERE! It’s a pain in the bum!
Definitely good advice. The only person against whom you should ever measure yourself is you – if what you’re achieving with your blog makes you happy then it doesn’t matter what other people are doing. It’s also true that you get back what you put in in terms of comments and likes – I make an effort to reply to or at least like all comments on my blog, and I still love reading and commenting on other people’s blogs just to read other perspectives.
Thanks for the comment Tim! It may be a hard pill to swallow for my mummy. Especially not being online all the time!! It’s quite addictive!
I so love this post. I think I need to read it on the daily basis! Damn my competitive streak! #pocolo
My mummy needs to look at it every day too! Baby steps…baby steps 😉
A great helpful post. I think I can sometimes be a blogging monster so I will definitely try harder to be less monstrous 🙂 #PoCoLo
My mummy is usually RAAHHHH! I’d like her to be a bit more fluffy. Fluffy monsters are good 😉
I am always comparing my wee blog to uber successful, huge ones and it’s a sure way to bum myself out! Some very sage advice Bella, thank you xx
A lovely read! Sometimes I am turning into a monster I have to admit but I try not to be as much as before. #pocolo
Great list! Must remember to disconnect. Last night my husband was scolding me for tweeting in bed!
Oh yes, I think many of us have been there at some point. It is human nature to be competitive, but there’s a line when comparing yourself against others can become an obsession that is only going to end in upset. Write for yourself, get involved in the community and make sure you’re doing things because you want to is key xx #TheList
Excellent advice. Wanted to be the best is human nature, but working out what that means in your own context is half the battle! #thelist
Very wise word!! It so easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing that you forget why you are doing what you are doing!
Fab advice! I definitely need to leave my phone on charge in a different room more often! I also always compare my little blog which is just silly.
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Becky xx
Such a very sensible list. It is so important to remember that blogging should be fun (except for the few for whom it is also a job). There are so many fantastic things about the blogging community it’s easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing and forget what is important to ourselves. Hope you continue to have fun with yours. X
Thanks for the comment. My mummy feels better for reading my list and putting some things into perspective x on the whole we love blogging and it’s great fun 🙂
I’m just finding my feet/voice with a new little blog and agree it is fun! But also as your mummy pointed out easy to loose perspective…. Says the lady still commenting on blogs at this time of night! Oops!
Very good tips here, I think I am a bit of a blogging monster so I will will read these when I need to be less of a monster haha x
Thank you! Wise words, very much needed here! Time for me to take a chill pill on all this stuff.
Totally agree with this! It echoes my recent ‘Are We Losing The Art of Conversation?’ post and I will be sharing your post!xx #TheList
I think you need to get the balance right when it comes to blogging! It’s a work in progress for my mummy! We’ll pop over and have a look x thanks for sharing! #TheList
Such a fab post, my son has started to ask ‘do you want to blog this mummy’ to random things he’s doing like cleaning his teeth and the hubs now doesn’t start his dinner until he’s asked if I’ve taken photo’s, blogging really is taking over, but the one thing I really must remember is your point number 6 I feel as though there’s so much competition out there at the moment instead of people working together to achieve their own goals. Really love this post. Good luck!!! 🙂
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Really, really good advice. And I need to read all of those again and again. Because I have started turning into a bit of a monster and putting far too much pressure on myself! I’m off on a two-week holiday and instead of being really excited, I’m worried I won’t have the time to schedule any posts while I’m away. SILLY me… #TheList
Lucas says – Bella – you are a mega clever lil’ dudette. This is excellent advice and I have constantly told the Mother something very similar. Luckily, Dad has my back on this and we have an agreement in our house, that once Dad tells Mum to put the computer away, she does. Family time is VERY important 🙂 #pocolo
Thanks Lucas! #PoCoLo
Wise words 🙂 blogging is a great hobby but it can definitely become a bit of an obsession. I think especially taking the night or even a full day off blogging and added social media is a good idea to keep you more grounded. Plus side – it can also provide you with plenty of more blogging material! (Spoken like a true blogging monster here… 🙂 ) #thelist
This baby has nailed it! Excellent points, I get social media guilt and comment guilt if I haven’t replied to people instantly and really I shouldn’t as I a do have a (very sad) life too! I will refer back to your post when I’m feeling the guilt #thelist
A great list! Which I totally and utterly agree with. I am only commenting now because Ross is working! Thank you for linking to #PoCoLo x
Haha! Hubba hubba indeed 🙂 Great list and one I think we can all take something from. I try to switch off after 9 too (although not on a Thursday as I’m prepping for #TheList until midnight, as I’m unable to do it in advance due to laziness!) and have to remind myself daily not to compare!! Thanks for linking up your lovely blog! #TheList xxx
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